Relationships are great for success if they are the right relationships. The wrong relationships can destroy any business. Think Helen of Troy or Samson and Delilah. Sometimes we get into relationships which no matter how romantic they are can destroy success if not handled properly.

Success demands time, commitment, and focus which are also 3 qualities that a good relationship needs in order to be successful. When one gets into a relationship and they are pursuing a certain level of success then there is a certain level of maturity that is necessary that one needs in order to handle a relationship.

How can relationships destroy success?

1. Relationships demand time

Relationships require a certain amount of time in order to make them work or rather for people to feel that they are in something worth their time. We value what demands our attention. With a relationship you need to be able to share your time with another person to everyone’s satisfaction who is involved. If you are working on an intense project that is supposed to get you success then sharing your time between the project and that relationship can be difficult. However this does not mean a relationship can hinder success.

2. Relationships demand commitment

Relationships require dedication that is important to create value in the relationship. Commitment that is required is always high and necessary. This is the same thing with a success project, it requires commitment in the early days such that there can seem to be competition between your relationship and the inception of that success.

3. Relationships demands Focus

A relationship can demand to be the centre of attention and all your efforts and energy is given to the relationship. Focus is important in creating value in the other person. So consequently a relationship can demand to be the heart of every action that you do.

How can relationships be properly handled when pursuing Success?

Sometimes a relationship is absolutely unavoidable especially with a person that you believe you are meant to be with. When you are in relationship maturity becomes important though it will also not be enough to ensure that the relationship is a success.

1. At inception put all the cards on the table

If you are getting into a relationship with someone then put all the cards on the table. Let the other person know what it is that you are doing and what it means. Let them be part of it in terms of the lows and the highs so that they know.

2. Communication is not enough

Communication is not enough if it is a once off thing, for a relationship to work when you are pursuing success then you must have consistent communication. This means regularly talking about what you are up to. It is when you are distant and buried in your project that arguments start  such as  you are never there or that you are not giving enough attention. Communication is therefore important to succeed.

Maturity assumes that two people will understand each other and respect each other’s goals; however what tends to happen is that as humans, our partners will eventually demand affection, attention and passion at some point. You might be on the verge of making a billion dollars but that does not mean that your partner will understand.

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3. Divide your time

Whether you admit it or not, you will need to make specific time for your relationship. No matter who you are, whether you are a Moses about to liberate a people, a president of the United States, you still need to set aside time that you can spend with your intimate relationships. Success that matters manages to achieve a balance between personal time and business or career time. When the two aspects do not balance then whatever success that one gets becomes a curse of unhappiness.